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By: What would you do? (2) | Alive

What would you do? (2) | Alive — Tue, 15 Apr 2008 23:44:44 +0000

[...] January I asked the question ‘What would you do?‘ It was about a guy I had not seen in 17 years and who, all of the sudden, wants to meet up [...]

By: Maria

Maria — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 13:49:19 +0000

Oh I feel for you! I know exactly what you’re saying. I actually have a lengthy reply so I’ve decided to blog about it instead LOL

It’s at,
Maria Finds

Good luck!

By: What Would YOU Do II? | Maria Finds

What Would YOU Do II? | Maria Finds — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 13:48:23 +0000

[...] of my post comments and ran to a blog called Alive by Elizabeth and one of her recent posts, “what would you do?” struck a chord with [...]

By: Carol

Carol — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 04:21:21 +0000

Why do you feel that saying “no” is so harsh? There are only two answers to the question he asked you — yes or no.
No one can make you feel bad if you don’t let them. Simply tell him that you have other commitments and that you are not able to accommodate him.
Do not add anything to that sentence,
and don’t get “woman’s guilt” about being the friend, or hostess, or helper. The more you answer questions with the truth, the easier it gets.
PS. I would have left the snotty daughter at the airport and not answered the phone. I’ve never liked the bosses “kids”.

By: witchypoo

witchypoo — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 01:58:17 +0000

Send him a link to your blog?

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By: Heather in Beautiful British Columbia

Heather in Beautiful British Columbia — Thu, 24 Jan 2008 16:58:19 +0000

People are just plain weird! I moved to Texas from Canada and had 30 visitors in 15 months - some stayed only 1 night, some up to 3 weeks! Some were relatives I’d never have invited to spend a night at my home in canada… some were merely acquaintances who wanted a free bed and breakfast. Some were actually invited! But, you are so right - people ‘expect’ to stay with you when you move somewhere ‘exotic’.

I finally got smart and told the uninvited guests I’d cook them a nice dinner the first night, but the next night was on them - at a restaurant of my choice. ‘Fair’ is fair to all, including me!

A ‘white lie’ would be more than appropriate in your case - or procrastination - if you don’t answer his email, he’ll get the idea! Or, email him right away and straight out say you just cannot offer him a place to stay - you don’t have to explain why

By: Sunny Daydreame

Sunny Daydreame — Thu, 24 Jan 2008 16:18:35 +0000

Meetup–yes, stay at my house–no

My house is my private space, you only get invited in if I invite you. You do not get invited in if you invite yourself–unless you are near and dear.

the meetup would be just to catchup, you know for old times sake. It can be fun to catch up.

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By: cardiogirl

cardiogirl — Thu, 24 Jan 2008 15:25:28 +0000

That is so crazy. I would not reply to him and if he sends you AGAIN a request I would say, Gosh I’m so sorry those dates aren’t going to work out for me. My schedule is really full.

But have fun on your trip.

By: Angelika

Angelika — Thu, 24 Jan 2008 13:35:52 +0000

Why are YOU concerned about looking rude? These other people are being rude to you by making these assumptions and making you feel uncomfortable.

I would tell him “I am not in the habit of allowing strangers to stay in my home. My definition of a stranger includes anyone who hasn’t been invited, by me, to have dinner at my home.”

You really don’t owe him an explanation. As the saying goes, “NO is a complete sentence.” IF you feel like you must explain yourself (???) then tell him the truth. You haven’t heard from him in 17 years and you weren’t that close in HS.

Angelika’s last blog post..Maybe this is why I don’t sleep

By: blueyes

blueyes — Thu, 24 Jan 2008 13:17:13 +0000

You’re kidding me right? He did NOT email you and ask to stay at your place in Australia after you have not seen nor spoken to him in 17 years? Depending on when it is you might be able to ignore it but otherwise I’d have to politely say sure we can meet to catch up but I would feel uncomfortable with letting you stay in my home especially if you have other family there.